Christmas is a joyous time full of festive celebrations and traditions. It is synonymous with connecting with family and friends when altruism is at its peak.
Compared to the past, Christmas has evolved and the importance of its Christian origin, celebrating the birth of Jesus, has weakened. With consumerism now at its core, it emphasises receiving and giving gifts. Nonetheless, it is a kind act of generosity. Seeing grandkids opening their presents is a joy, the excitement and jubilation unmistakable. Equally, husbands, partners and friends delight, especially when it is something you know they want.
As 50-plus Black Women, we had some awesome Christmases bringing up our children. Still, we were caught up in the hustle and bustle of festive season preparations: buying gifts, shopping for food, planning menus, decorating the Christmas tree and house, baking a cake, and a flurry of social obligations. All to make everyone happy and ensure they had a great Christmas. Although splendid fun, it was exhausting. At this stage of our lives, we take it leisurely or are glad to let someone take charge as we savour, taking a back seat.
The customary preparations were soaking fruits for baking the Christmas cake or a couple of them and cooking or baking ham. Precooked ham is now readily available and so much easier. Old habits die hard and we are happy to bake a Christmas cake. Not forgetting to lessen the alcohol content for the grandkids, or not; just kidding!
A festive season is one of indulgence and enjoyment, done fervently. Each family has its traditions. For some, going to church is obligatory. Overall, we enjoy our favourite Christmas dishes and tipple, avidly watching television even if we have watched a seasonal favourite year after year and listening to music. For some, games like charades are customary.
Conversely, we cannot dismiss the dark side of the festive season. Loneliness is a biggie, as are family dynamics and tensions, but we won’t go there on this occasion.
An apt Christmas quote is:
“When we remember a special Christmas, it is not the presents that made it special, but the laughter, the feeling of love and the togetherness of friends and family that made that Christmas special” Catherine Pulsifer.
What are you doing this festive season? Visiting children who have invited you to stay? Hosting your children and grandkids? Or spending it abroad for the first time, envisaging a relaxing spa.
I wish you a Merry Christmas, 50-Plus Black Women.
I look forward to meeting you in 2025.
